Blonde weaves, colored contacts, bleaching creams.

Tanning booths, lip injections, butt pads.

There are white women accused of “black phishing 

There are black women hiding their ethnic features.

I’ve seen women with foundation 3 shades lighter than their body.

I’ve seen overpowering spray tans with orange-ish tints that cover light skin.

What does it mean to be blessed?

When the time for my engagement came along I had an idea in my mind. 

 I'd served faithfully in the church since I was little and attended countless weddings, all while expecting "God's best."  

I waited 31 years for this moment and was ecstatic to live out one of my dreams. It seemed like nothing could stop my excitement! And then--